Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Hormones! GRRRRRRR watch out for the venting....

So I know prego people have these extra hormones running around in our bodies running a muck. But either it's my imagination or it's really bad this time around. My temper is worse, my patience is awful, and people irritate the hell out of me!!! Sometimes I wish for the morning sickness instead of getting irritated so easily. My poor family, I can't believe how much I have been yelling this week and how the little things that my husband use to do, just annoy me now. He pokes a teases me and now instead of me giggling I give him the evil eye. Poor man. But he is being unbelievably sweet under the circumstances.
Well on Sunday he had a friend over he was helping with something and the person new that Sunday's are busy for our family because after church we have maybe an 1hr at home then we have to leave to the grandparents house and usually stay until 3 or 4. Well Stacy had told him this and said please come on Saturday instead and he could help. The person new that Stacy had to work that day at 4pm because he was on call. So Stacy is waiting around until almost 3 and he finlay calls and aske if he can come over, and Stacy said no that he wouldn't have time before he had to leave. So Sunday after church he showes up and Stacy is helping him and it's about 12:30 and IM already in a bad mood because he just shows up and puts Stacy on the spot. So I don't want to be the witch and tell him that we need to leave. lol so I send Ayda out to tell Stacy we have to get going or we will be late. 15 more min go by and I have had it by now, I get on my jacket and grab my purse and go outside and say ok we really need to go now. They are both just standing there talking like no big deal. I said how long have you been done, they said about 15 min. I said well why haven't we left yet then? I said ok lets go girls get into dad's truck, mine was blocking everyone so I had to get into mine and move it for them. The guy, after I had moved has nothing blocking him in, but he is just sitting there watching Stacy packing some stuff in the back of the truck to take to work. IM all tapping my fingers still waiting in my car in the street for them both to pull out. So the guy doesn't pull out and Stacy ends up getting out first then finaly after another few minutes the guy Finlay leaves!! I race my car back in the driveway to park and get out and go to the truck and get in. Stacy can tell I'm upset. I ask what was he waiting for, he giggles and says he's not sure. I say, how rude when he knew we needed to be somewhere that he just shows up and then just sits there yapping to you and then sees that IM waiting to park in his spot and then he takes a lifetime to leave!!! Stacy just smiles and puts his hand on mine and says I know sweetie, IM sorry. I felt like a punk after that but it's still bugging me. aahhh

This all probably makes no sense to whomever is reading but I feel better all ready venting.

Allot of stuff has been happening with the Ex wife situation to. And if anyone knows me, I'M not the type of person to hate people not even her. Well I need to repent now and ask for help because I actually hate the girl now. So most of you know I have been taking care of the woman(aka child)'s children. I have loved every second of everyday of it too. I have even spent my own money on them because that's what parents do. Even my b-day money sometimes, I can't help it! So Stacy calls her and says your late(as usual) paying child support and since your late now the girls dance payment is late so you owe the late fee of $10. She's all why couldn't you cover my end until I got you the child support? I mean can you believe this lady?!? Why should we cover your end when we already cover so much as it is?!?! Then she gets all huffy cause Stacy is finally laying into her and saying you have no idea what we do for these girls what we pay for that your dang child support doesn't even cover, Jamie even uses her own money and she has done more for your children than you have ever done(I was in shock after that one). So she gets all mad and says we keep saying $10 here $5 there and she can't afford it anymore that we are just making her jump though hoops to get money. Whatever!!! She freaks out and says fine! Guess what?! Forget me paying full child support anymore and forget me paying half of the bill that she and Stacy have been paying half on for over 3 years now. She also said that the papers about her child support being cut in half was in the mail and that it had already gone through court. Which is BS because we have jurisdiction here in TX now because we have been here so long. Then she just hang up on him.
Well I get to counting how this is all going to add up and how far behind a month we will be and I freak out and start crying. I tell Stacy I hate her now, and all the time I stuck up for her is over she is never allowed to stay in my house again. (I would always to let her stay one night or so at our house just to be nice because we all could tolerate each other. But no more, I'M done helping someone out that is a total..... uh freak!) Stacy is staying way too calm and it is driving me nuts! says he looked up a few things and come to find out, he doesn't even have to pay half of the medical for them and that she is totally resp for that and come to find out if she wants to fight anything she has to come here to do it! So I'M feeling better by now and saying fine we are going to from now on garnish her checks for child support instead of just letting her pay us on her own time. Stacy calls her back and tells her all this stuff and she ends up being the one freaked out and says fine it will be back to normal. Hangs up again. I feel allot better but we are still looking further into this jurisdiction thing.
So there I got it out! I feel better. Woes me! j/k I'M alllllllll good now. Thanks for listening to me whine. Sorry!!! I will make sure the next post will be a happy one. :o)

3 comments:

buttafly said...

Now you know I'm a good friend because I heard half of this already today and I still read it! That guy, well that was pretty rude... but you need to relax. Watch your blood pressure girl. No biggie if you're a little bit late to the grandparents once in a while. Your health is more important right now.

Natalie... well she just sucks, but we already knew that. You should just garnish her wages, then at least you will always have the money on time and Stacy won't have to play "bill collector" calling her. Hang in there girl. The countdown has begun!

SpringRose said...

Jamie Girl...I agree with Jen...breathe baby, breathe. Being late to grandma's house or not even going at all one week is a way better option than getting yourself all worked up and upset and having your blood pressure go thru the roof. Although I have no idea what you're going thru "hormone" wise, having never had a child :( I can relate to the monthly blues associated with being a woman, and well, sometimes if you need to cry, you just need to cry. And sometimes if you need to yell, well you need to yell. But always try to keep things in perspective. When you feel yourself getting to the boiling point, recognize that proabably 75% of what you're feeling is hormonal and most likely isn't as big a deal as it seems in the moment.

I wish I could be there for you. I would make sure you were pampered and do all I could do to make you're experience a stress free one....But alas...

Miss you woman! Love you!
BREATHE...

Tink's Life said...

Thanks girls. I love you both soooo much!!!